Drastic changes to one's appearance are always a bit nerve-wracking. Not that whatever you had going before was necessarily great, but once you chop off or dye all your hair, give in and start wearing rompers, or admit your need for podiatrist-approved footwear options, you want a little hollow reassurance, a "hey, not only is this not so bad, it's better, promise."
This comes up most often in relation to the drastic hair change. The conversation goes something like this:
Person: [Staring at your incredibly obvious, 10+ inches off the sides new-do] Did you get a hair cut?
You: Yeah, I did. Felt it was time for a change.
Person: That's nice. By the way, what's this dip recipe?
You see the problem - "Person" is supposed to come in with a compliment there, not a request. In fact, the "I love your new haircut!" conversation followed by a whispered "ugh, it looks AWFUL" to another "friend" is so common as to be a given - liking or not liking your haircut is not a prerequisite for TELLING you that I like it. Just the opposite. Knowing you got a haircut is, theoretically, to "like" your new haircut, at least in public. This is so well-established that Seventeen magazine never even had to tell me it was something I was supposed to do.
Which is why when you DON'T get the automatic-appearance-change-compliment it's such a slap in the face.
By the way, I noticed that you have a "face-slap" red handprint on your cheek there - is that new? I totally LOVE it!
-Posted by Jilly
Tuesday, July 13, 2010
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